Why do we say we have zero tolerance for bullying, but adult society is rife with it and it is an epidemic among children?
Because the injuries that all forms of bullying and abuse do to brains are invisible. We ignore them, fail to heal them, and they become cyclical and systemic.
Bullying and abuse are at the source of much misery in our lives. Because we are not taught about our brains, let alone how much they are impacted by bullying and abuse, we do not have a way to avoid this misery, heal our scars, or restore our health. In The Bullied Brain readers learn about the evidence doctors, psychiatrists, neuropsychologists and neuroscientists have gathered, that shows the harm done by bullying and abuse to your brain, and how you can be empowered to protect yourself and all others. Not only is it critically important to discover how much your mental health is contingent on what has sculpted and shaped the world inside your head, it is also the first step in learning ways to recover.
While your brain is vulnerable to bullying and abuse, it is at the same time remarkably adept at repairing all kinds of traumas and injuries. The first part of The Bullied Brain outlines what the research shows bullying and abuse do to your brain. The second part of the book, "The Stronger Brain" provides case studies of adults and children who have undergone focused training to heal their neurological scars and restore their health. These accessible and practical lessons can be integrated into your life. Strengthening your brain acts as an effective antidote to the bullying and abuse that are rampant in society.
Foreword by Dr. Michael Merzenich, "the father of neuroplasticity," and he also contributes his knowledge, insights, and research in The Bullied Brain to help show you how to empower your brain to fulfill its power and potential.
Jennifer is the Founder of The Bullied Brain (https://www.bulliedbrain.com/). In April 2022, The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health hits the shelves. Neuroscientist Dr. Michael Merzenich says it is "scientifically the most thorough treatment of the subject on planet earth." Jennifer earned her PhD from University of Toronto in Comparative Literature. Her first book Rite of Passage in the Narratives of Dante and Joyce explores the way in which individuals transform from readers to writers of culture. Her second book Be A Good Soldier: Children's Grief in Modernist English Novels looks at pedagogical beliefs about children and the ways in which they fuel aggression and war. She has written three plays that focus on contemporary suffering: Distortion, Aristotle's Poetics, and Wakeful Sleeper. They're with the Playwright's Guild of Canada. Her third book Teaching Bullies takes lived experience with an abuse crisis and puts it into the context of psychology, psychiatry, education, law, and neuroscience. What's being discovered in neuroscientific labs across the world has the power to change how we understand our brains and lives. This empowering research infuses her latest book The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health. She also writes thrillers. For fun, check out Crush (a wine thriller) and Royal Dispatch which is about Queen Elizabeth II's dangerous trip to Canada in the 1950s (yes, it's fiction).
The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health is a must read for every parent and educator. Dr. Jennifer Fraser shows us step by step what damage occurs through different types of abuse experienced in childhood through many experiences, some of which are accepted or brushed aside in schools around the world, or even labelled as character building. Through the book we learn about the neuroscience of our brains and what effects this type of trauma has on our brains. The book is full of hope and practical ways we can change and grow, how we can learn and repair our bullied brains to move forward with joy, passion and confidence in life. Little of this information is taught to parents or teachers and knowing this information leads us on a brighter path forward where we can nurture and repair our brains. The book is written in an easy to read format that translates complex neuroscience into language we can read and absorb (and put into practice) with ease. Highly recommended.
Dr. Helen Maffini
As a seasoned counselor and educator with over 23 years of experience working with children and adults, I am forever changed as a result of this book. Dr. Fraser’s in-depth and revolutionary approach to Bullying advances the reader’s solution focus and/or prevention approach, exponentially. The tools and insights gained will have long lasting effects on the populations I serve. Thank you Dr. Fraser for transforming your pain into this seminal instrument for us all to apply and positively impact the lives we serve.
Dr. Maria Martinez-SalazarEducator, Therapist, and Qualified Supervisor MHC in Miami, Florida
The genius of this book is that it explains the neurological and physical impacts of bullying in an effort to help people recover from the traumas. While there are many people like me who help organizations prevent and address workplace bullying, there are few that provide concrete and tangible information and actions to help the victims heal from within, using neuroscience as a guide. Dr. Fraser gives us insight into the brains and bodies of those impacted by bullying, offering them and the experts that treat them a path forward. A must read for anyone in fields that counsel, treat or help heal those impacted by workplace bullying.
Paul Pelletier LL.B. PMP CAPS
Author of The Workplace Bullying Handbook
Dr. Fraser and I are passionate about seeing, stopping and healing all forms of abuse—especially the abuse of children in sports, schools, and other community activities. The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health focuses on healing, offering a powerful and engaging mix of heartbreaking personal story, rigorous scientific research, and proven practices to heal bullied brains. The Bullied Brain is a must read for anyone devoted to ending cycles of abuse, and helping victims become sur-thrivors.
Dr. Amy Saltzman M.D., Creator of How to Spot a Spider: Protecting Yourself and Others from Abuse Video series.
Author of Still Quiet Place for Athletes: Mindfulness Skills for Achieving Peak Performance and Finding Flow in Sports and in LifeBoard Certified in Integrative Medicine. Director of the Association for Mindfulness in Education
Jennifer Fraser has undertaken a complicated task…..write about a topic with professional distance whilst sharing with the reader the deep pain imposed on her family by those who deserve to be called out. It is a daunting and imposing mission; on the one hand, dispassionate, on the other hand, passionate. Because Dr. Fraser wears her emotions on her proverbial sleeve the prose confronts, challenges, and yes makes you uncomfortable. Good for her for carrying this off with extraordinary aplomb, depth, and searing honesty. For that, she deserves both our warmest congratulations and our attention. Whether you agree or disagree with her style, analysis, and core assumptions you will be enriched by engaging with this most important book.
Amos N. Guiora, Professor of Law,
S.J. Quinney College of Law
University of Utah
Author, Armies of Enablers
The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health is an essential read for all coaches. Understanding the effects bullying has on the most important of sporting organs is something coaches would do well to invest time in. Dr. Fraser's book not only helps coaches comprehend the brain's relationship with bullying, it also gives them plenty of tools to combat this pernicious social problem.
Dan Abrahams Psychologist
Author of Soccer Brain and Golf Tough
Podcast Host of The Sport Psych Show
With great insight and sensitivity, Dr. Jennifer Fraser demonstrates the profound effects of trauma on the developing brain and offers real hope for healing through neuroscience.
Dr. Marcia Sirota, psychiatrist
Author and Founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute
As a Parenting Coach I found Jennifer Fraser's The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health encouraging, easy to read, compassionate, vulnerable and knowledgeable. This isn’t a book about blame but about finding the determination and individual strength to create personal and cultural change by truly learning about our brains and how to heal them. The Bullied Brain leaves us with a message of hope and healing for our children and communities due to our brain’s ability to heal and repair throughout life. It outlines methods that we can work individually towards with the optimism of creating generational change that results in healthier, emotionally and physically, individuals, families and communities.
Certified Parenting Coach Adlerian and Jai Institute.
The Bullied Brain is mandatory reading for everyone involved in sport. The subtitle, “Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health” reveals why. Having worked in the allied health care sector for the balance of my career, I believe it’s time to prioritize brain health in our overarching health & wellness formula.
Partner FSQ Sport
Much like the concerning conversation on global warming, this book changes the conversation on one of the greatest scourges in society today - bullying and abuse. From years of denial, argument and blaming others, there is now a call for urgent action. There is no time to waste as this is costing lives, untold suffering, and enormous sums of money in lost productivity and lifelong dysfunction. It turns out to be more widespread than any of us ever suspected.
Dr. Jennifer Fraser illuminates the way to a better future of education, early detection and measurable healing made possible by neuroscience and new understanding.
This book reflects a key turning point in the history of the human race which has massive benefits for all of us, for our children, and their children but only if we accept and address our ignorance of the past. Across the globe there is now a groundswell of courageous men, women and children speaking out about their abuse, of established institutions taking ownership for the first time of their past wrongs and agreeing to redress them. Together, I am confident we can build a better future for our children and grandchildren.
Like climate change, this is a moral, social and financial imperative of our time and we should each play our part in this revolution - everywhere. Like Dr. Jennifer Fraser, we should not be deterred by the enormity of the challenge or the price we must pay to shine new light and put a stop to this silent killer, wherever it hides behind our closed doors and on our deepest, darkest web. No more.
Co-Founder and Director of Stronger Brains, Australia
The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health is an incredible book that digs deep into such an important topic. We all need to be aware of the impact of bullying and abuse on the brain. More importantly, we all need to be brave in calling out individuals who operate cultures of fear and those who cross the line between being demanding and demeaning, and those who think that results can only be achieved this way.
Sport managed in the correct way still remains today one of the safest vehicles for children to develop both physically, holistically, and learn character and life skills that will allow them to thrive on any path they take. Jennifer has done a wonderful job in highlighting this through real life stories, providing support and guidance by using the science, and translating it for us in a way that allows all of us to work with it.
CEO WWPIS – Working With Parents in Sport, UK
Jennifer Fraser has been a crucial resource to myself and other athletes as we navigate unfamiliar waters around the scope and damage of what abuse does. As athletes, we are not armed with the education to understand the long term damage that bullying and abuse do. Far too often, when we think of abuse in society, our definition is solely sexual assault. Yet through Jennifer’s important work, I’ve finally been able to name the complex feelings of trauma that I spent a decade carrying after dealing with situations first by a coach and then people in an organization who covered up his abuse. Through being able to name and identify what I experienced as abuse, I have been able to heal. I’m so grateful for Dr. Fraser's work, her passion on the subject, and can’t wait for this valuable book The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore YourHealth to be released.
Founder of Topp Soccer
Dr. Fraser dives deeply into the bullied brain and ways to improve and restore health. The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health is a must read for any coach, parent and teenager, or anyone who works in and around children. Dr. Fraser puts the book into 10 steps that can heal scars, restore, maintain and improve our health. The book is unputdownable and has your brain working, thinking and visiting past experiences and future experiences and how to handle certain situations. It is a book that is evidence-based, rich in examples and backed by science. The book is holistic and helps you align the mind and body and get more out of your brain. We must be able to keep as many children engaged and involved for as long as possible in the best possible environment. We must not let "power" or "bullies" dictate how their future or childhood looks. Children get one childhood and it is our job as parents, educators and coaches to make it the best possible and most memorable as we can. Following the book's 10 steps we can better do this and help children have roots to grow and wings to fly. Dr. Fraser thanks for sharing your passion and experiences with us to make it better for those who come after.
Director of Coaching Senior Boys
School Of Excellence-Virginia Rush
I have had the opportunity to get to know Jen (Dr. Jennifer Fraser) over the last few years after reading and doing a podcast with her on her book, Teaching Bullies, and was humbled to be provided a digital copy of her upcoming book The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health. I can say without question she has again exceeded my expectations with the extent of detailed research into the neuroscience of how the brain responds to various forms of bullying and abuse, but what I found particularly refreshing is the latter part of the book where Jen highlights what can be done to recover optimal brain health, AKA - Mens Sana in Corpo Sano = A Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body. For anyone involved in sport, education, or the business world, I highly recommend you add The Bullied Brain to your must read list.
Executive Director, For The Love of The Game
Founder, PARADIGM Sports
An interesting topic delving into what is crucial thought for how abuse /bullying can affect the future of young people with lasting effects. Taking a new approach The Bullied Brain: Heal Your Scars and Restore Your Health can educate and unlock a whole new train of thinking.
2017 UK Coach Developer of the Year
Lecturer in Football, Wolverhampton University