Demonstrates that reclaiming life in adulthood is possible for survivors of childhood abuse.
Stolen Childhoods: Thriving After Abuse focuses on how survivors of childhood abuse can finally break their silence and begin the process of recovery by understanding the impact their abuse history has on their adulthood. Filled with real life client conversations, along with her own experiences as a patient, this work helps readers stop reliving past abuse and thrive in their recovery. It demonstrates the tremendous hope that can come from having a witness, and feeling heard and believed.
Throughout the book, the reader witnesses how adult survivors of childhood abuse can use relationships with therapists, partners, or supportive family members to combat their feelings of shame and guilt. Botwin walks readers through ways survivors can develop trust with others and move through emotions of fear and grief. She offers examples of learning how to manage traumatic responses in situations that trigger flashbacks, feelings of unsafety, or fears of being unprotected. Offering actionable steps to healing throughout, Botwin helps readers on their journeys to reclaiming their right to live safe, happy, full lives.
Shari Botwin, LCSW, has been counseling survivors in recovery from all types of traumas in her Cherry Hill, New Jersey private practice for over twenty-five years. Her second book, Thriving After Trauma: Stories of Living and Healing (Rowman & Littlefield) was published in 2019. Botwin has served as an expert witness in high profile cases related to abuse and sexual assault. In July 2022, Botwin presented a webinar for The Trauma and Recovery Institute in China on the role of an eating disorder in staying stuck in childhood abuse. Botwin has conducted Keynote presentations for CE credits for Advanced Recovery Systems, Stockton Institute, and Rutgers University. Botwin has given expert commentary on breaking stories related to trauma on a variety of international outlets, including NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, The New York Times, Rolling Stone, Parents, Sports Illustrated, and others. Botwin lives outside of Philadelphia with her twelve-year-old son and two cats.
Emphasizing that validation and connection are the foundations for healing childhood abuse, Shari Botwin has written an invaluable guide offering hope and a safe path forward for navigating the complexities of healing past trauma and its impact in adulthood. Written with great care, wisdom, and warmth, this book is a source of actionable steps and strategies for each step of the journey, making it a vital tool for survivors seeking to reclaim their lives.
Courageously sharing her own story as well as innumerable stories of her clients, survivors of childhood abuse, Shari Botwin spells out tools and pathways to healing and offers a toolbox for mental health professionals. A unique and valuable contribution to the recovery literature.
Shari Botwin gets what it’s like to be abused by someone you look up to and are dependent upon. If you ever wanted to feel understood & learn new tools for building resilience and strength, this book is for you.
As a survivor and co-survivor of child sexual abuse, I found this book very relatable, easy to follow, and helpful. I really appreciated the way Shari used her personal lived experiences, clinical knowledge, and client stories, combined with actionable steps for healing and moving forward. I will definitely recommend this book to the clients I support because it is comprehensive without being overwhelming.
Written in a clear, matter-of-fact style that is easy to digest, Shari Botwin’s Stolen Childhoods: Thriving After Abuse is a step-by-step guide for survivors that dives into the difficult process of recovery after the tragic abuse experienced in childhood. From the types of therapeutic modalities that can help heal, to the symptoms one would experience in adulthood after the fact, the book is a map for those searching their way to a clearer understanding of themselves or people in their lives. She reaches out to the audience in a voice that feels very intimate, as she takes us on a journey that besides informing us, also slowly reveals her own experience with abuse in a frank and open-hearted manner that helps the reader trust her. As stories of abuse today continue to populate the collective psyche in the news and in the courts, Botwin is sure to be an enlightening part of the current conversation.
We are learning more and more about the affects of childhood trauma on adults. In true Shari form, this book thoughtfully provides straightforward , compassionate and actionable advice that turns hope for healing into a tangible reality.
As an adult survivor of child abuse, I am always interested in reading the stories of other survivors, along with creative ways to work through and overcome adversity. Author Shari Botwin, really dug deep, and broke down many barriers in regards to abuse, therapy and the reality that far too many people continue to suffer in silence.
I highly recommend this book as an additional learning tool for not only survivors, but for the health care workers who assist in helping someone learn how to validate their own internal pains.
I have personally done the self-work to weed through my past abuse, and I have been on a tremendous healing journey. Even at my stage in the healing process, I found this book to be extremely helpful. I believe we all learn something new from each other’s stories, perspectives and medical education.
Breaking the silence is the key to freedom. I consider myself a voice for the voiceless, and I respectfully walk with Shari Botwin as she continues to raise hers.
As a therapist who has personally overcome the profound challenges of sexual abuse Shari Botwin brings professional expertise and firsthand understanding to guide others on their healing journey.
Standing as an expert witness, Shari affirms the path to recovery is not solitary; together, we navigate towards healing, resilience, and the reclamation of one’s sense of sense.