If you ever want a book that will make you say, Thank God I’m not a therapist, this is it. Jane Greer listens to people who make questionable decisions so you don’t have to. In Am I Lying to Myself? the marriage and family counselor suggests, convincingly, that when it comes to relationships, being in a state of denial is probably the No. 1 factor in keeping us in a rut. We need to face unpleasant and sometimes devastating truths to get on with our lives, and Greer breaks down the elements of denial into digestible components: wishing and hoping, missing the signs, believing what you’re told and turning a little into a lot. It’s extraordinary, really, the way denial can twist you in knots. Greer is terrific at telling stories about people in various denial-related quandaries – to the extent that she sparked my inner soap-opera fan – and now I’d like to know what happened to them all. But sometimes we do get to witness the breakthrough moments we hope for in our own lives, summed up perfectly by one patient who blessedly opted for divorce: “I can’t pretend to not know anymore what I now know.” Greer thinks that one deserves its own T-shirt. I’m with her.
— Judith Newman; The New York Times
Greer (What About Me?) has written a book for anyone who has experienced denial within
themselves or from other people. Describing denial as the “Houdini of the heart,” the author
addresses patterns of denial from small annoyances to the larger issues of infidelity and addiction. The book is written in two parts. The first focuses on how to recognize the different elements of denial—wishing and hoping, missing the signs, believing what you are told, turning a little into a lot. Part two examines how to cope with denial in other people. Greer bases her advice and suggestions on her years as a marriage and family therapist and relates the experience of her patients as examples of the multiple forms of denial. Written in a clear and understandable style without resorting to medical jargon, the experiences she shares are relatable and the advice she provides will help readers focus on patterns of denial and its impact on their lives. Highly recommended. Best for anyone interested in personal growth, self-help, and relationship issues.
— Library Journal
Everyone needs to read this life-changing book! It’s a guarantee to help free you from denial and see the truth so that you can be your best self.
— Vanessa Williams
Everyone should read this book. Jane Greer persuasively details why it is time for us to stop avoiding our problems —-to finally FINALLY STOP living in denial. Dr. Greer’s insights let readers in on the secret of why she has helped so many people enrich their lives and find the joy of being in love. A must read to help your relationship and your life become what you always dreamed it could be.
— Mika Brzezinski, Co-Host, MSNBC's Morning Joe
OMG, I NEED this book! And so do you. And so does everybody else. Why? Because everybody knows what it’s like to feel stuck in a relationship, to keep repeating a pattern you know isn’t working, to be waiting and waiting for somebody who can’t commit—to be on the other side of the fence and listening to people who seem never to change. Dr. Jane Greer looks at the role denial plays in our behaviors—and shows you how to break free of the ones you don’t want. (And even if your life and relationships are perfect, because that happens so often, you’ll learn so much from this insightful psychological book
— Jenna Blum, New York Times and international bestselling author, Those Who Save Us and Storm Chasers
As Dr. Jane Greer brilliantly demonstrates in her new book, taking responsibility for one’s self is almost something of a personal art. It requires a thorough introspection of one’s self, in the process potentially facing challenging themes and memories that have led one to a state of cursed "Denial." In Am I Lying to Myself?, Dr. Greer knows how to effectively manipulate her presentational style to appeal to the widest possible audience.
— Medium