When coauthors, friends, and bloggers Ballinger and Crane reached their seventies, they came to grips with having limited time left and asked how they wanted to live the rest of their lives. They began to collect stories from friends and acquaintances. Why do some people stay involved and vital in their late years? What challenges we do all face? According to them, having a positive attitude, living in the moment, and being willing to adapt seem to be the keys. Ballinger and Crane take on a range of topics, including living alone after long marriages (a common situation for their age group), friendship (keeping in touch with old friends and adding new ones), looking for love (through fix ups and online dating sites), and repairing old relationships with both family and friends. They talk about setting boundaries with family, staying connected, following passions, and planning for downsizing. The authors' tone is no nonsense and upbeat, and their advice is loaded with practical tips. There are many baby boomers out there facing similar decisions who will benefit from their guidelines.
— Booklist
[T]his book offers advice for those entering the beginning of their golden years. [Ballinger and Crane] humorously covers a range of topics, including managing finances and retirement, dating, and maintaining a social life (funerals are a surprising place to make friends), and handling children and grandchildren. Using personal experiences and views of experts, Ballinger and Crane offer practical solutions for some of the expected and surprising hurdles that come with aging, all with a focus on maintaining a sense of youthful joy.
— Chronogram Magazine
Aging is serious business. But as Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Carne illustrate so beautifully in Not Dead Yet, there are so many different ways to live fully and happily in later life. Joy doesn’t end when jobs do, or kids move away, or partners die. This book shows you how to thrive no matter how old you are. It’s a gift.
— Abby Ellin, author of “Duped: Double Lives, False Identities and the Con Man I Almost Married”
The words permeating this book will serve as a master teacher for the process of aging, and as a blueprint for dealing with the complexities engendered by change. Each chapter is layered with personal experience, unexpected humor, transcendental wisdom, and carefully crafted anecdotes. Readers will be able to indulge in a mosaic of clearly written stories that are woven with simple, practical insights all of which will help the reader reset their priorities and strive for the things that truly matter. The book starts by addressing how our bodies age. It invites the reader to explore how we shouldn't allow the limitations imposed by aging to deprive us of living a purposeful and meaningful life. The authors refer to this attitude as "age defiers." The book then talks about some of the more difficult things we ever have to face, like forgiving someone who has deeply hurt us; creating healthy boundaries with children, stepchildren, and grandchildren; viewing life as transitory; freeing ourselves from the things that bind us, and end of life issues. As a minister, I deal with the gamut of topics covered in this book. I know that this book is going to help me become a more effective minister to the age population addressed in this book. I know that it is going to help my congregants untangle some of the challenges that come with aging and their desire to live a meaningful and enthusiastic life. I highly recommend this book.
— Rev. Luis R. Perez, pastor, Rhinebeck Reformed Church
Not Dead Yet is a wonderful title for a wonderful book about the great privilege of staying alive in old age (and not being afraid to call it that). Ballinger and Crane have written an ideal road map on how women can make wise choices in life to deal with everything from sagging bodies to friendship, family, work and where to live. This book is just what we need right now – the vim and vigor to deal with adversity and the day-to-day tools of how to embrace this new season of life with wisdom and even humor.
— Patty Dann, author of “The Wright Sister,” “Mermaids,” “The Goldfish Went on Vacation,” and other books
Aging can be tough for baby boomers, even if you are not suddenly single. In This deeply personal book, Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane provide ways to reboot your life to enjoy each day and stop worrying about the small stuff. They offer excellent advice on how to communicate with your adult children, live and thrive in community, and find time to enjoy your passions such as traveling, hiking, volunteering and painting. In this must-read book, they share how seniors can find joy by living in the moment.
— Alice Starr, president, Starr Strategies Co.
Not Dead Yet is a field guide to living a joyful life as we age. Authors Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane share practical tips gleaned from their own and others' triumphant journeys through the "older years.” I found this book to offer nuggets for people of all ages at all stages of life about living with purpose, meaning and joy.
— Amy Goyer, author, speaker, consultant, AARP’s family and caregiving expert
In their second book on the topic, Barbara and Margaret share their refreshingly funny points of view on what it means to find joy in daily life regardless of the challenges we all face. While everyone has their own unique prescription to happiness, lessons on inventorying one’s work life before retirement, focusing on relationships and staying connected to our own needs have proven time and again to be the best medicine. My mother told me she felt like she really came into her own in her 50s, and my experience has been the same. As this book shows, we all still have much to look forward to – and because of our life experience, more tools to call on.
— Penny Pennington, managing partner, Edward Jones
Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane provide their reader with positive and thought-provoking stories in their page-turner book, Not Dead Yet. Their personal interviews with a diverse group of women in the second half of life encourage a woman to explore positive options on how to thrive, not just survive. The explorer Ponce de Leon discovered ‘The Fountain of Youth;’ Barbara and Margaret discovered several choices on the way 'happiness thinks’ in a woman’s journey over 60.
— Susan Honey Good, author, named a Top 50 Influencer 2021, founder of HoneyGood.com