ContentsPreface
Dedication
Part I: Get up from the Floor
Chapter One: Excluded and on the Floor
What is Wrong?
Cohort and Culture
Grandmothers and Families
Chapter Two: Why Grandmothers?
The Paradox of Menopause
Evidence for Grandmother Hypothesis
Still True?
Chapter Three: Deep Within, On the Floor Again
Every Part of the brain
Genes, Selfish and Not
Oxytocin and Other Hormones
Chapter Four: Too Little Grandmothering
Some Care is Essential
Who is to Blame
Suing for Visitation Rights
Chapter Five: Too Much Grandmothering
Custodial Grandmothers
Three Generation Households
Finding the Balance
Part II: At every Age
Chapter Six: The Loving Couple
Lesson One: Keep Comments to Yourself
Lesson Two: Respect the Gatekeepers
Lesson Three: Recognize Linked Lives
Chapter Seven: The Pregnant Couple
Lesson Four: Quiet Fears and Anxieties
Lesson Five: Learn about Innovations
Lesson Six: Build Relationships Carefully
Chapter Eight: Birth and the Newborn
Lesson Seven: Remember the other people.
Lesson Eight: Recognize Birth as a Pivot
Lesson Nine: Prevent Postpartum Depression
Chapter Nine: Infants
Lesson Ten: Notice and Admire
Lesson Eleven: Avoid Attachment Wars
Lesson Twelve: Don’t Feed the Baby, Unless….
Chapter Ten: Young Children
Lesson Thirteen: Twelve: Avoid Assumptions
Lesson Fourteen: Accept Blame and Mediation
Lesson Fifteen: Discipline with Care
Chapter Eleven: School Children
Lesson Sixteen: Keep them Safe and Social
Lesson Seventeen: Protect Victims and Bullies
Lesson Eighteen: Help with Education
Chapter Twelve: Divorce and Grandchildren
Lesson Nineteen: Strengthen the Partnership
Lesson Twenty: Be a Steady Anchor
Lesson Twenty-One: Step into the Family
Chapter Thirteen: Adolescents
Lesson Twenty-Two: Navigate Changing Relationships
Lesson Twenty-Three: Reconsider Suicide, Drugs, and Sex
Lesson Twenty-Four: Learn Technology
Chapter Fourteen: Emerging Adults
Lesson Twenty-Five: Don’t Advise Settling Down
Lesson Twenty-Six: Explore Values with Words and Money
Lesson Twenty-Seven: Take Care of Health and Ability
Into the Future
References
Bibliography
Index
About the Author