Globe Pequot / Lyons Press
Pages: 336
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Trim: 6 x 9
978-1-4930-3408-6 • Paperback • October 2018 • $22.95 • (£17.99)
978-1-4930-3960-9 • eBook • October 2018 • $12.99 • (£9.99)
Marcy Cottrell Houle, MS, is a biologist and award-winning author. Her book Wings for My Flight won the prestigious Christopher Medal and The Prairie Keepers was a New York Times Notable Book and a Booklist Editor’s Choice. She has published articles in the New York Times, Reader’s Digest, and Nature Conservancy Magazine, and has been featured on NPR and national television programs and in periodical reviews. She lives in Portland, Oregon.
Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH,is director of geriatrics in the Division of General Internal Medicine and Geriatrics at Oregon Health and Sciences University (OHSU) and cofounder of the OHSU Healthy Aging Alliance. She has received many honors and recognition for her innovative work. In addition, Dr. Eckstrom is a sought-after national speaker and the author of numerous articles on geriatrics. She lives in Portland, Oregon.
Part I: The Airplane Diaries
1 Colliding Worlds
2 First Decline
What I Wish I’d Known: Early Warning Signs of Dementia (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
3 Panic Attack
4 Countdown to Advocacy
What I Wish I’d Known: What Is Dementia, Mild Cognitive Impairment, and Alzheimer’s Disease . . . and How Do You Tell the Difference? (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
5 A New Way of Seeing
6 Passages
What I Wish I’d Known: How to Find a Good Memory Facility (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
7 Montavilla Beginnings
What I Wish I’d Known: Moving Day: How to Ease the Transition (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
8 Dallas II
9 Visiting Hours
10 The Phone Call
What I Wish I’d Known: Falls—A Leading Cause of Death in Older Adults and What You Can Do to Prevent Them (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
11 Surgery for an Alzheimer’s Patient
12 It’s a Matter of Life or Death
What I Wish I’d Known: A Deadly Fate with Few Symptoms—Dehydration—How to Recognize It and How to Prevent It (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
13 Forsaken
14 No Man Is an Island
15 Do No Harm
What I Wish I’d Known: The Problem of Pain in Dementia and Why Millions of Seniors Are Suffering (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
16 Return of the Man
Part II: A Good Ending
17 A Radical Prescription
What I Wish I’d Known: The Best “Anti-aging” Pill of Them All (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
18 No Senior Left Inside
What I Wish I’d Known: The ABCs of Exercise (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
19 I’m Not Cedaring; I’m Scissoring
What I Wish I’d Known: How to Ensure Parents’ Wishes for Care Are Met—Before a Crisis Hits (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
20 Who’s Shelby?
What I Wish I’d Known: What Is a TIA? And What Do I Do If I Think My Parent Is Having One? (Elizabeth Eckstrom,MD, MPH)
21 Stories from the Fall
22 The Very Best Christmas Ever
23 Three Things
What I Wish I’d Known: The Art to Aging . . . Healthfully. . . for Your Body and Your Mind (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
24 I See Little Green Men
What I Wish I’d Known: Come to Your Senses! The Value of Aids (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
25 Delirious
26 Paging Doctor HIP!
What I Wish I’d Known: What Delirium Is, and Why It’s Essential You Know How to Spot It (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
27 “Sometimes It’s Better If They Never Wake Up”
What I Wish I’d Known: The Most Important Medical Word That Can Save Your Parent’s Life—“Baseline”
(Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
28 Where Old People Are Sent to Die
29 The Lazarus Syndrome
30 A Hope and a Future
31 So What’s a Geriatrician and Why Should I Care?
What I Wish I’d Known: The Tsunami Is Coming . . . and Why You Should Be Worried (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
32 Pharmacopeia
What I Wish I’d Known: Too Many Pills—The Fourth-Leading Cause of Death in Seniors (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
33 The Search Begins
34 Honey and Dummy
35 Mountains and Valleys
What I Wish I’d Known: The Care and Maintenance of Caregivers (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
36 Who’s Taking the Trazadone?
What I Wish I’d Known: How to Get a Good Night’s Rest— Naturally (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
37 The Art of Caregiving
38 Living to One Hundred
39 And They Shall Inherit the Earth
40 Go GICU! Stop Step-Down!
What I Wish I’d Known: The Serious Problems of Today’s Hospitals for Older Adults—Why We Need to Demand a Change Now (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
41 How to Pack for the Next Trip
42 Faithful Companion
43 Crossing the Line
What I Wish I’d Known: What Is Palliative Care, and How Can It Help My Parents and Me? (Elizabeth Eckstrom, MD, MPH)
44 A Good Ending
Appendix 1 The Drugs Seniors Should Not Be On but Are Too Often Prescribed, as Determined by the American Geriatric Society “Beers List”
Appendix 2 Health History Sheets: What Every Senior Must Have
Appendix 3 Continuity of Care: The Daily Checklist for You, Your Parent, Your Caregiver, and Your Doctor
. .. .Eckstrom comes across as knowledgeable, clear and compassionate — the provider everyone's mother should have. Yet few of us will find someone similarly informed. .. .In fact, this is a book for everyone — if not this moment, then eventually. It will be a book to keep handy when the elderly in your life become frail; and beyond that, when you yourself begin to forget things and wonder if it's the onset of dementia or when the pill bottles begin to gather by the side of your bed. Reading this just might be the best preventative medicine you can find.
— The Oregonian
This is a remarkable book. The story of Marcy Houle’s family’s discovery of their father having dementia reads like a novel. So many of the reactions a family can experience during this journey are portrayed in a caring but honest light. Houle’s willingness to describe the struggles to accept the diagnosis and help her parents adjust serves as a model for other families facing this challenge. Hers is not a story just of struggle, but one also suffused with love and meaning. Dr. Eckstrom’s chapters are very helpful—brief, but written in clear, understandable language, and very accurate. Hearing her approach to patients with dementia will enable readers to know what to look for in a caring and competent physician.
— Kenneth Brummel-Smith, MD, Charlotte Edwards Maguire Professor and chair, department of geriatrics, Florida State University College of Medicine
Houle’s story will resonate emotionally with anyone who has cared for a parent or older relative. It also offers a practical guide for readers who are care-giving now and who want to give their loved ones the gift of good care.- SeniorAdvisor.com
— Senior Advisor
Informative, insightful, and clear, The Gift of Caring provides a moving exploration of what growing old means and how we as children, friends, and neighbors should respond. It provides extremely practical advice which serves as a wonderful roadmap to a better way of caring for older adults in America. I cannot recommend it highly enough.
— Rachelle Bernacki, MD, MS, director of quality initiatives, Adult Palliative Care, DFCI
With the growth of the elderly population, particularly those over eighty-five years of age, there is a tremendous need for resources like The Gift of Caring. There is so much to be learned from others who have traveled this road.
— Dr. David B. Reuben, chief of Geriatric Medicine, UCLA; past president of the American Geriatric Society; past chair of the board of directors of the American Board of Internal Medicine
'This is a book for everyone- if not this moment, then eventually. It will be a book to keep handy when the elderly in your life become frail; and beyond that, when you yourself begin to forget things and wonder if it’s the onset of dementia or when the pill bottles begin to gather. Reading this just might be the best preventive medicine you can find. '
— The Oregonian
"Must Have Book for Caregivers. .. .This book has a really interesting approach. Marcy Cottrell Houle – a professional writer – writes a memoir about caring for her Dad with Alzheimers and her frail mother. The story is interspersed with expert advice from Dr. Eckstrom that the author wishes she had known about avoiding pitfalls in our modern healthcare system. It’s new and definitely will serve you well." – Anne Tumlinson
— Daughterhood.org