“So this is my life? What happened to the person I thought I might be at this stage of the game? Where did that person go? Why am I feeling like I’m just treading water, trying to stay one step ahead of my bills and obligations. Anyway, I’m just too tired at this point to try to figure out where that other person went. But I sure expected to be living a different life than this one.”
Most people in their forties, fifties, and beyond catch themselves saying something similar to this. Everyone has a mental image of the person they want to be, but few of us actually fulfill these wishes. Once people realize they are living a completely different life than they’d envisioned, they often think it is too late to change and carry on with the same old habits. Too many people settle for a half-lived life.
Best-selling author John Lee has long been addressing the fallacy of this attitude in talks and workshops—and now he sets this program into book form. In The Half-Lived Life, he introduces and explains how passivity holds us hostage to old ways of doing things—and provides solutions on escaping this paralyzing state of mind, body, and spirit while increasing our emotional intelligence (EQ). He also shows the freedom to be gained via compassionate assertiveness—an outgrowth of setting boundaries and enforcing limits. Just as Lee’s seminars have successfully led many to find their authentic self in the second half of their life, so too will this book.
John Lee is a best-selling author of seventeen books with more than 500,000 copies sold to date—including The Anger Solution and Flying Boy. He has been featured on Oprah, Dr. Oz, 20/20, The View, CNN, PBS, and NPR, and has been interviewed by Newsweek, the New York Times, and the Los Angeles Times. Among the organizations and health facilities he has consulted on issues of emotional well being are the Betty Ford Clinic, Cleveland Clinic, and the New York Open Center. He also teaches workshops and give lectures worldwide, appearing in more than forty cities each year.
The Anger Solution (Da Capo Press, Sept. 2009, 978-0738212609; 2,294 RTD);
The Missing Peace (HCI, June 2006, 1,590 RTD)
Growing Yourself Back Up (Three Rivers Press, Jan. 2001, 7,997 RTD)
Writing from the Body (St Martin’s Griffin, Nov. 1994, 1,677 RTD)
Facing the Fire (Bantam, June 1993, 5,343 RTD)
At My Father’s Wedding (Bantam, Oct. 1992, 24 RTD)
Recovery: Plain and Simple (HCI, Oct. 1990)
The Flying Boy (HCI, Feb. 1989, 3,137 RTD)
The Secret Place of Thunder (Sept. 2004)
Doctor, I’m Scared (Sept. 2004)
Courting a Woman’s Soul (Nov. 2003)
“If you want to understand why you are so unsatisfied and disappointed with your life, this is the book for you. John Lee is a contemporary wise man sharing wisdom about our pain and how to get beyond it to a renewed life. The Half-Lived Life is must reading for all of us on The Quest!” —Robert L. Moore, PhD, author of Facing the Dragon
“If anyone can create a path of transformation for your life, John Lee can and will in this book. He has lived the pages and now passes the personal power on to you.” —Pat Love, EdD, author of Never Be Lonely Again
“John Lee mentions that ‘very little has been written about passivity in men.’ Men are always assumed to be hard-drivers, but they live out their passivity in a disguised way. This book will help both men and women see that.” —Robert Bly, poet and author of Iron John
From the bestselling author of The Flying Boy, a guide to making the most of the second half of your life